Thursday, October 12

Books, books, books!

I have always been a huge reader, but this year, I am on a different path, reading lots of personal development books, and loving them. The first book on the list I read as a recommendation from my friend, Melody Ross. I started it in January at a scrapbooking retreat, and, honestly, I was at the beach, and could have just curled up in my room with this book and read for the entire week, it was THAT good!!! 

These are some of the books I have been reading, and I have to say, I highly recommend all of them! The first few on the list came from signing up to be a Certified Soul Restoration Instructor, and the rest came from either recommendations as books related to those, or recommended as part of my Beachbody Coaching business. I'm finding that one book seems to lead to another, and I'm learning so so so much!

Please take a look and consider reading some of these amazing books. (I've listened to most of them on Audible while driving to and from work!)

  1. Resilience: Hard-Won Wisdom for Living a Better Life, Eric Greitens 
  2. How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie
  3. Live Does, Bob Goth
  4. Leadership and Self-Deception, The Arbinger Institute
  5. Remembering Wholeness: A Personal Handbook for Thriving in the 21st Century, Carol Tuttle
  6. The Power of Habit: Why we do What we do in Life and Business, Charles Dehigg
  7. You Are a Badass, Jenn Sincero
  8. Braving the Wilderness, Brene Grown
  9. SuperLife: The 5 Forces That Will Make You Healthy, Fit, and Eternally Awesome, Darin Olien
  10. #GIRLBOSS, Sophia Amoruso

I'm now reading You are a Badass at Making Money, Jen Sincero because I loved the first book so much. There's a lot of relevant information in this book! I recommend it highly.

I'm also trying to work my way through The Miracle Morning, Hal Elrod, but in the first hour of the book, I got horribly "triggered" by his description of a car accident, and it's been hard to get back to it, but I need to finish it because I keep hearing awesome stuff about it.

Anyhow, I'll try to keep updating this list, but if you are looking for some good personal development books, all these are awesome!!

Tuesday, October 3

Tips for Holiday Survival

We are rapidly heading into the part of the year where best intentions get sidelined, "food-centric" holidays are abundant, the days get shorter, we want to go into hibernate mode, and generally, priorities can get skewed. In preparation for that, I thought I would share what I do. I plan. No, seriously. I plan. I start NOW, thinking about "holiday survival".

1. Think it through. What do I need to do differently. How will I get through different scenarios. For instance, what would REALLY happen if I pulled out my yellow container on Thanksgiving? (that's a really humorous thought, right? but, when everyone KNOWS how hard you have worked all year, what do you think they would really do? Probably nothing. in fact, they might want to do the same thing!)  Loosely, here's what I do. I think through parties or family functions. Can we bring a veggie tray? Can I eat beforehand? Can I have a shake and then make a really small plate of just my very favorite things? You don't need to get obsessive on this, but at least think about it. Don't just go in blindly, assuming that it will all be fine, because that's a recipe for disaster. Think it through, decide where your boundaries are, and stick to them.

2. Keep it to yourself. I don't tell anyone (except my husband) about any of this planning, by the way. The WORST mistake ever was admitting, on a holiday, at a family dinner, that I was planning to stick to my diet. It then became almost a challenge to everyone to offer me things that I wouldn't normally eat. "Can you have this?" "are you sure you don't want this?" "oh, this is my favorite, I thought it was yours, right?" Instead, I just take small portions of the things I want, that fit in with my plan, which I did up front, before the event, and I enjoy my day, within my own rules.

3. Bring what you can eat. If you are a person who really enjoys dessert but wants to stick to your program, bring a dessert you can eat. In fact, be warned, bring lots. People will want to eat it and will actually gravitate toward it. I typically will bring a crustless pumpkin pie, which I actually make in individual ramekins, as well as a couple of other things, to be sure there's enough. Apple pie can be a great addition, because you can make it fairly healthy, right? By bringing my own desserts, and making sure I get some, I am not denying myself. I'm still able to eat and enjoy.

4. Remember that it is just ONE meal. I think the holidays get blown up into a food fest. There's certain things that are only "in focus" around the holidays, like huge platters of cookies, egg nog, pies and other desserts, boxes of chocolate and other treats. It can become a sort of landmine if you are eating mindfully and trying not to sabotage what you've worked so hard for all year. Instead of succumbing to all those foods, I try to remember that, for instance, Thanksgiving dinner is ONE meal. Just one. It's not an opportunity to eat all the things. I don't eat all day long, I eat very carefully all day, then I enjoy my turkey dinner, then I'm right back onto my eating plan. I just am. It is important to me, so I make it important. I don't just throw all my hard work to the wind. That's only disappointing me. If I know we will have a huge meal, (like Thanksgiving), I will eat a sparce breakfast and plan a sparce dinner. (our Thanksgiving meal, for instance, is usually around 3, so it replaces lunch...)

5. Work it out. Yesterday, on Facebook, I already saw a post where someone was asking "are you planning to workout on Thanksgiving and Christmas?" Really? What makes those days different? If you enjoy your workouts and are having good results, why would you stop? Why not actually make it a little easier on yourself by doing your workout first thing in the morning so that you have given your body some kindness and attention and can eat without thinking about how much you have to do to burn off all that food. (which doesn't even work!) It's just another day! I plan to do a workout in the morning, and actually, might add some yoga in the evening, to smooth it all out.

6. Enjoy the day. The purpose of holidays isn't food. It's not. The food is not supposed to be the driving factor of everything. It has, over time, become the focal point, which is wrong. The focal point of holidays is being together. Sharing gratitude and love with family and friends.
If you follow even 3 or 4 of these tips, I think you will find that you enjoy your holidays more. I know I do, because I know that I will finish the holiday season happy, healthy, and ahead of the game, not having gained a bunch of senseless weight because I ate my way through them. :)

-Have a fabulous day, and I hope these tips help you in the holiday season!